After reading the results of my personality test, Greg took it for himself and his result was ENFJ, which means extraversion, intuition, feeling, judgment. I copied and commented on a few sections of his description below. The blue print is my opinion:
ENFJs are people-focused individuals. They live in the world of people possibilities. More so than any other type, they have excellent people skills. They understand and care about people, and have a special talent for bringing out the best in others. ENFJ's main interest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people. They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this. This is SO Greg. His focus on others is truly his strongest and best characteristic. I have always envied his ability to be 100% focused on the moment and on the person he is with, and his focus is sincere. He is never listening to you out of obligation. He genuinely wants to hear what you have to say, do what you want to do. He is interested in the things his love ones bring to him, simply because someone he loves finds them interesting.
Because ENFJ's people skills are so extraordinary, they have the ability to make people do exactly what they want them to do. They get under people's skins and get the reactions that they are seeking. ENFJ's motives are usually unselfish, but ENFJs who have developed less than ideally have been known to use their power over people to manipulate them. Greg is not at all manipulative, but he is a great salesman. My sister-in-law always said that he could sell ice to an Eskimo, and I believe it! He's persuasive!
ENFJ's tend to be more reserved about exposing themselves than other extraverted types. Although they may have strongly-felt beliefs, they're likely to refrain from expressing them if doing so would interfere with bringing out the best in others. Because their strongest interest lies in being a catalyst of change in other people, they're likely to interact with others on their own level, in a chameleon-like manner, rather than as individuals. Which is not to say that the ENFJ does not have opinions. ENFJs have definite values and opinions which they're able to express clearly and succinctly. These beliefs will be expressed as long as they're not too personal. ENFJ is in many ways expressive and open, but is more focused on being responsive and supportive of others. When faced with a conflict between a strongly-held value and serving another person's need, they are highly likely to value the other person's needs. Hmm...this is true too. Greg often has some strong opinions which he is amazingly good at keeping to himself in certain situations, if he feels like expressing his thoughts would do more harm than good (Unlike me, who tends to blurt things out, regardless of whether or not the timing is appropriate). While I think this is actually a positive attribute - knowing when to speak up and when to keep quiet - I also know that he has allowed some people to really take advantage of him because of his lack of protest.
People love ENFJs. They are fun to be with, and truly understand and love people. They are typically very straight-forward and honest. Usually ENFJs exude a lot of self-confidence, and have a great amount of ability to do many different things. They are generally bright, full of potential, energetic and fast-paced. They are usually good at anything which captures their interest. Fun, fast-paced, confident. Yep. That's Greg. When we were first dating, he took me to a family reunion. Everyone was playing horseshoes, which I had never played. I will never forget how he stood behind me and guided me through the first few tosses of the horseshoe. He exuded confidence and charm. It was one of the sexiest moments ever!
ENFJs like for things to be well-organized, and will work hard at maintaining structure and resolving ambiguity. They have a tendency to be fussy, especially with their home environments. What I can say about this statement is "thank goodness he married a neat freak," because he is fussy about his home environment, but while he isn't necessarily a messy person, he's certainly not the most organized person either!
ENFJs do not like dealing with impersonal reasoning. They don't understand or appreciate its merit, and will be unhappy in situations where they're forced to deal with logic and facts without any connection to a human element. Living in the world of people possibilities, they enjoy their plans more than their achievements. They get excited about possibilities for the future, but may become easily bored and restless with the present...And this is why we have 15 home improvement projects that are 95% done, then abandoned!
ENFJs have a special gift with people, and are basically happy people when they can use that gift to help others. They get their best satisfaction from serving others. Their genuine interest in Humankind and their exceptional intuitive awareness of people makes them able to draw out even the most reserved individuals.
ENFJs have a strong need for close, intimate relationships, and will put forth a lot of effort in creating and maintaining these relationships. They're very loyal and trustworthy once involved in a relationship. Yes, this is Greg - he expends most of his energy outside of work on his interpersonal relationships and is loyal to a fault!
In general, ENFJs are charming, warm, gracious, creative and diverse individuals with richly developed insights into what makes other people tick. This special ability to see growth potential in others combined with a genuine drive to help people makes the ENFJ a truly valued individual. As giving and caring as the ENFJ is, they need to remember to value their own needs as well as the needs of others.
Jealous that he's mine? You should be!
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